Christian
Adult Children
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Dysfunctional Families
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Epigenetics is the study of how a person's environment and behaviors can affect how their genes work, without changing the DNA sequence. Epigenetic changes can be reversible and can last a lifetime, and some can even be passed on to future generations.
(Note: This video depicts how sex addiction impacts epigenetics. However, all addiction walks out similarly.)
Healing is Available Through Jesus
"If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land." - 2 Chronicles 7:14
(Note: The land Jesus heals is inside us.)
We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
We became addicted to excitement.
We confuse love and pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue."
We have "stuffed" our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.
- I agree in Jesus' name.
- I agree in Jesus' name.
- I agree in Jesus' name.
- I agree in Jesus' name.
- I agree in Jesus' name.
- I agree in Jesus' name.
(Upon completing your day, ask yourself these questions. They help us live the Christian ACA program in all areas of our lives. Step 10 keeps us mindful of our program.)
1. Am I isolating & not talking about what is really going on with me?
2. Did I view anyone as an authority figure today & feel frightened or rebellious?
3. Did I dissociate, fantasize, or become involved in self-harm today?
4. Am I keeping secrets & feeling unique? Am I talking about my feelings?
5. Am I being honest in my relationships or am I seeking approval over honesty?
6. Am I acting "perfect" & obsessing over making mistakes?
7. Do I overreact or isolate from others when I perceive that I have been criticized?
8. Am I attending ACA meetings to nurture myself & give back what was given to me?
9. Have I acted helpful recently to manipulate others?
10. Am I secretly angry at someone, but I am avoiding talking about it?
11. Have I listened to my Inner Child or True Self today?
12. Did I judge myself or someone else without mercy today?
13. Am I listening to the Critical Parent or Loving Parent?
14. Am I remembering I can ask for help today & I can call someone?
This 20 min. sequence has been used by many ACAers to enrich their spiritual lives.
It helps improve conscious contact with Jesus.
We will discover our real identities by loving and accepting ourselves.
Our self-esteem will increase as we give ourselves approval on a daily basis.
Fear of authority figures and the need to “people-please” will leave us.
Our ability to share intimacy will grow inside us.
As we face our abandonment issues, we will be attracted by strengths and become
more tolerant of weaknesses.
We will enjoy feeling stable, peaceful, and financially secure.
We will learn how to play and have fun in our lives.
We will choose to love people who can love and be responsible for themselves.
Healthy boundaries and limits will become easier for us to set.
Fears of failure and success will leave us, as we intuitively make healthier choices.
With help from our ACA support group, we will slowly release our dysfunctional behaviors.
Gradually, with Jesus’ help, we will learn to expect the best and get it.
The Twelve Steps of ACA Workbook provides a detailed series of exercises & questionnaires used in one-on-one Fellow Traveler (Sponsorship) or group studies.
"Strengthening My Recovery"
is written by & for Adult Children. With 365 daily shares, each paired with a meaningful quotation from the ACA Fellowship Text, this meditation book inspires.
From our experience, after completing the 12 Steps this book is a great adjunct. It explores how to become your own loving parent - providing guidance on creating the conditions to reclaim your inner child & reparent yourself with gentleness, humor, love & respect.
(Note: People remain wounded if they only use this book for healing. Working the 12 Steps is where the serious healing takes place.)
ACA Fellowship Text was written by anonymous ACA members providing guidance on working the 12 Step ACA program leading to recovery from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional family.
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